Being One With Water

There is a sense of serenity and peace while thinking about water.  Viewing the waves of the ocean during a sunset brings happiness, and hearing the rain drops against the windowsill creates a relaxing environment.   I personally feel so much better when I’m at the beach.  All my worries and fears cease to exist when I see the deep blue water extend past the horizon.  

In contrast, our daily lives are the opposite of what water represents.  We rush to get to work, furiously respond to emails, and multitasking has become a habitual activity.  Our lives are so busy that it is often difficult to find time to enjoy what really matters.

Below are some tips on how to be like water.  These tips will help with mindfulness and increase your life satisfaction.  

Water moves forward.  Do you ever feel stuck in a rut or a situation?  Think about moving forward in your life.  We can’t change the past and we can’t predict the future.  Move forward, drop by drop, or step by step. 

Water adapts to the environment.  When you put water in a freezer it turns to ice.  When you put water in a glass it shifts to accommodate the cup.  Change is constant and at times we struggle to adapt.  We wish things were different or we want a different outcome.  However, we can shift our perspective to respond instead of reacting to change.  

Water flows easily.  With our jobs, family, and social lives, it can feel like it’s a daily struggle to meet all our responsibilities.  If you feel overwhelmed, take a deep breath, and pause.  It’s all right to provide self-care first before taking care of everything else.  Find a place within yourself which consists of ease and effort as opposed to pushing forward to the point of exhaustion and burnout. 

Take care and don’t forget to hydrate, physically and mentally!

Energize Your Mornings

Many of us view the New Year as a new beginning and positive change.  While I do agree with this notion, I also view the mornings as a symbolic representation of a new beginning.  Before the sun rises the sky is dark and there is no light to be seen.  Then the sky slowly changes, and radiant light emerges from the horizon, casting warmth and energy farther than the eye can see.  All the darkness is gone, and we are left with a radiant and new sunrise.   A new day has emerged.

We can compare the sunrise, or transformation from darkness into light, as a new beginning.  The challenges and obstacles we faced are of the past, and the dawn is a new day for us to grow and transform ourselves.  Moreover, there are 365 days of this a year!  This means we don’t have to wait until the New Year for a new beginning.   Opportunity and potential are always in front of us.

Therefore, it is essential that we start our mornings or our new beginnings with intention and focus.  Below are some tips to illuminate light upon your goals and dreams.

Become a morning person so you can take care of yourself. I know this is hard for all of us.  I personally need 8 -9 hours of sleep a night in order to exercise and train others.  However, I noticed that when I wake up earlier, I am more productive and I’m able to achieve more throughout the day.  In addition to waking up early, I will try to work out, exercise, stretch, or listen to music.  Self-care gives me motivation and I’m so much happier afterwards.  This helps supercharge my day so I can make the most of my time.   It’s very easy to stay in bed, especially with the cold weather.  See if you can push yourself to not press snooze and get out of bed.

Avoid excessive use of social media. I think social media is beneficial to keep up with people’s lives and accomplishments.  However, I catch myself looking at my phone in the morning and before I know it, an hour has passed.  I realized that I could look at other people’s lives and get lost in theirs, or I can get out of bed and invest in mine.  Looking at people’s accomplishments also can create comparison and judgement.  We might wish our lives were better or we had different circumstances.  Social media isn’t bad but remember that there should be limits on how much time you spend scrolling through Facebook and Instagram.

Change your perspective. Sometimes when I wake up and look at the clock, I wish I was still sleeping, and I groan at the fact that I have to get out of bed.  Upon reflecting on these thoughts, I realized that my perspective was negative.  Consequently, I came to the conclusion that I have the power to shift my perspective into something that will benefit me.  Instead of saying I have to wake up, I now say I get to wake up.  I now have 24 hours to make the most of my day.  Every day I am blessed with the opportunity to motivate and inspire people to change their lives.   After work, I have the opportunity to enrich my life though yoga, dance, and spending time with the people I love.  I am incredibly grateful for all of this, but gratitude only comes when we take a step back in order to adjust our len.

Every day we have the opportunity for a new beginning.  I wish everyone happiness, contentment, and growth, 365 days out of the year!

Self-Care For the Holidays:

One of the hardest things about the holidays is to find time to take care of yourself.  We are so busy with shopping, planning events and cooking that we lose sight of self-care.  It’s easy to put yourself in autopilot and forget that the driver also needs to stop and perform self-maintenance.  

Even with a busy schedule we can still find some time to become more mindful and make decisions to improve your health for the holidays.  Below are some tips you can adopt to thrive during the holiday season.  

Plan Your Week

• Plan your week on Sunday.  When we are busy and don’t have time, exercise goes on the back burner.  When you view and look at your schedule before Monday, you can see where you can add in small chunks of fitness.  Adding a 5-minute walk before work or stretching before a call can boost your resilience.  Furthermore, you will feel less stressed, which will improve your mental outlook.  

Eat at home

• Most of us will celebrate by dining with friends or eating take out.  When you cook at home you are monitoring what you add into your meal.  Many restaurants will add in extra oil, salt, fat, and other non-essential ingredients to your food.  Your plate should be colorful and have a variety of food groups.  

Water, Water, Water

• Think about what you are drinking.  Eggnog, wine and other sugary drinks contain excess calories.  Consume these items in moderation.  As a reminder, water is the best hydration drink.  Although there are specific guidelines for different populations, the rule of thumb is to consume 8 glasses of water per day.  

Burst of Exercise

• Something is better than nothing.  Most of us have an all or nothing mentality in which we are obligated to obtain 30-minutes of exercise or else it doesn’t count.  That is not necessarily true as research has shown that the body can demonstrate healthy responses to exercise in as little as 5-minutes.  If you are short on time, try performing an interval of Tabata, squat in place or just go for a walk.  Taking small steps will improve your fitness.

Wishing everyone a great holiday!  Please stay safe and take care of yourself.   

Being Present and Positive:

As the weather cools off and we move into Fall and Winter, I can’t help but smile when I think about Thanksgiving.  As a child I remember my parents cooking delicious food in the kitchen while a football game played on the TV.  My siblings were chasing each other, and my mom and her friends were talking about where they wanted to go early morning shopping.  There is a sense of warmth, comfort, and joy when I reminisce about these memories. 

This year has been hard on many of us.  We might have experienced a dramatic shift in our personal and professional life.  I know I am still adjusting to teaching and training through ZOOM and seeing my coworkers through TEAMS.  It’s especially difficult when I visit my parents and I have to wear a mask and make sure to wash my hands and keep my distance from my father who has COPD.  

Even with the current health situation and social challenges we can still create great memories that will last a lifetime.  We can still return to an experience of joy and amazement, similar to what we experienced as adolescents.  Throughout my life experiences I’ve learned that happiness isn’t getting what you want but making the best with what you have.  Below are some tips on how to practice being thankful this holiday season. 

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• There is a saying by John Kabat-Zinn which resonates deeply with me.  “Wherever you go, there you are” is a simple saying that reminds us to control where our thoughts go.  If we start ruminating and dwelling on negative events, then our mindset will start to shift to a negative view of the world and our current circumstances.  We can always change our perspective and adjust our lens to what we have.  One tip is to find a positive in every difficult situation.  I might not like the fact that I have to wear a mask with my parents, however I’m grateful that I get to see them and eat their delicious cooking! 

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• This holiday season try to be present with your family.  As children we didn’t worry about working, having an income or taking care of others.  As adults we have that responsibility, but we don’t need to dwell or worry.  If we start to think about the future or all the responsibilities we have, we miss out on life and the present moment, which is always right in front of us.  If you are watching a movie, watch and enjoy that movie.  Don’t think about all the work you have to do when you go back into the office.  Let current self be present, and future self, take care of future responsibilities. 

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• Thanksgiving is all about connecting and being there with your family and friends.  If you had some painful experiences with your family or friends that caused your relationships to drift apart, this year is a good year to reconnect with your loved ones.  Everyone makes mistakes and no one is perfect.  If you are still holding grudges or stuck in the past, see if you can find forgiveness and compassion for your loved ones and yourself.  We can’t change the past, but we can always work together to build a better future. 

I hope everyone has a wonderful and safe Thanksgiving.  Don’t forget to do some squats every now and then as you’re watching the Macy’s Parade!